Recapturing Beauty Day 2: Making peace with my hair

Today I was supposed to make peace with my hair.

Today was hard.

The challenge was to either go all natural today (no straightening, curling, product, nada) or to go for a new hair style we have always wanted to try but we think it won't look good with our hair. Now, I WAS going to wake up, take a shower, and go all natural. This plan failed when I accidentally slept in and had 15 minutes to get ready. So, I went with a style I knew to be easy, but had a hard time thinking I could pull it off. Today, I rocked the high bun. I think the bun is a little small and falls apart easily and I think my head looks funny because my hair is short now. BUT, remembering my challenge, I said to myself this morning, "Today, it will look good on me." I added some sentimental sparkle to help. I always see girls with cute little bows in their hair when they wear high buns, so I did it Madi style.

The big sparkly thing is the hair piece I wore for my wedding day, which is what I mean by "sentimental sparkle". I believe this is an important part of today's challenge. A lot of the idea is that I am defining why I do certain things and how I view myself. I wear this hair piece and feel good because I have good memories tied to it.

How I view my hair has been something that I've worked on for a while now (3 years and still working on it). I started by growing my hair out. I also stopped straightening it and curling it, except for special occasions. I used product to make it "not frizzy" and used some oil to keep it softer since my hair is coarse. I was to the point where it was super long and I felt mostly confident about my natural curl.

After I got married, I decided to see how attached I really was with my hair. There are some women out there who have long hair and are afraid to cut it. I never understood this until I was sitting in the salon chair, talking with my hairdresser about how I wanted to cut my hair. Fear struck me for a moment. Would I miss my hair? Would I still be confident about how I look with short hair? I still went ahead and cut it. The result? I kind of missed my long hair. I still do on some days.

Thinking about how I feel about my hair today, I am noticing that I am never happy with my hair. I feel like it's either too long, and I never do anything with it, or too short, and I still don't do anything with it. It's time to change that. I am choosing now to see my hair as a work of art all on it's own. What it does naturally should be celebrated! I can choose to work my own creativity with it by trying new styles and updos, but it's time to stop trying to "fix" my hair. Now that I think about it, my hair kind of matches my personality. It's a little on the unpredictable side.

So here's to continuing to make peace with my hair. I love it like crazy just the way it is.